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The things you'll do for love...

Wednesday, 1 November 2006 01:14 by Terry Aney

Warning: This is going to be an extremely long blog that is essentially just me getting a previous document into our virtual journal.
Couple days ago, as I wrote in a previous blog, I was on a big kick to get a bunch of 'To Dos' done - both personal and professional. Well one of the personal ones had me reorganizing the files on my PC and I came across an old document I created that described the fiasco that took place with me trying to think of a clever way to propose to Ann. The following content was copied from that document and moved to this journal.


Back in March, 2000 I had made the best decision of my life. I had decided that I wanted to marry Ann Hennen. Every since we had gone to Tom and Jodi Spears' wedding and they had their ceremony on Friday October 9th, which happen to fall a day between their birthdays, I wanted to have a neat little twist like that for Ann and my dates. Since her birthday was April 9th, and mine was May 9th, the only thing I could hope for was that June 9th, happen to fall on a Saturday the next year. If that "minor miracle" occurred then all we had to worry about was getting the church, caterer, and reception to all be open on that weekend as well! No small feat in the busy wedding month of June.

Well, I could tell this wedding was off on the right foot. A quick glance at the calendar confirmed my hopes to have the 9-9-9 consecutive dates (this of course will help me remember the anniversary :)). All I had to do now was get through the proposal in one piece and start the hectic planning for one of the greatest days of our life.

Below is a summary of all the trials and tribulations I went through to try and come up with a memorable proposal. You'll see that not only did I have to adapt for constantly changing and canceling plans, but also I had to fly by the seat of my pants and perfect many communication skills (i.e. lying, apologizing, begging, etc. :)). Have fun reading the havoc that only seems to happen to me anytime I try to plan or do something fun.

Idea #1 - Surprise at the Space Needle

Summary: I informed Janet (Ann's supervisor) that I was going to propose to Ann and needed a little help pulling off the idea that I wanted to do. The idea was to get Ann out to Seattle, WA for a supposed business trip and I would somehow get her up to the Space Needle Restaurant. Then, not knowing I was in Seattle with her, I would surprise her at the restaurant with the engagement. The whole proposal and surprise hasn't been coordinated yet, but I need Janet to get the ball rolling telling Ann that she has to manage a Focus Group in Seattle, WA and I would take it from there.

Email - Janet to Terry, 3/28/2000
Summary: Janet basically telling me that she can't help, but it sounded to me as though she thought Angus Reid was going to have to perform a lot more favors than a simple white lie.
Email - Terry to Janet, 3/28/2000
Summary: I was trying to clear up any possibility of confusion on Janet's part. All I need from ARG was to say she had to go on a trip. I could have an eTicket waiting for her at airport.
Email - Terry to Janet, 3/28/2000
Summary: Janet hadn't gotten back on my last email and I was worried she was ignoring me. I needed to find out quick because I wanted to propose on Ann's birthday weekend and it was fast approaching.
Email - Janet to Terry, 3/28/2000
Summary: Giving me the Heismann again.
Email - Terry to Janet, 3/28/2000
Summary: Letting Janet know that it is "OK" even though I am pissed. I mean it is a simple white lie she has to perform and I find it hard to believe that I couldn't mail a waiver or something.

Idea #2 - Help from the Shavlik's

Summary: Same premise as the first idea in the fact that we would ultimately end up in Seattle, WA in the Space Needle but the "foreplay" would be a little different. Basically I had it planned to say that I was in Seattle for either business or training. I had told Mark about Ann's birthday and because of this he was pretending to fly Ann out to Seattle for the weekend. Instead of me picking her up at the airport, one of Mark and Rebecca's old friend would meet Ann and say that I was stuck in a meeting. They would go out to dinner where I would call and say that I was going to be tied up until late (i.e. 10pm) or something so they could finish eating and then meet me at the hotel. This of course would bum Ann out (it better have) however; I would be showing up by surprise during dessert where the ring would somehow "magically" be placed in the dessert somehow. This was the basic premise of the idea. Of course it needed some ironing out still but I had to get it in the work quick if I was going to find good plane tickets and such. I had White Bear Lake Travel looking for tickets and of course all the women there were in love with me for the idea. :)

Email - Terry to Mark/Rebecca Shavlik, 3/28/2000
Summary: Explaining the situation to Mark and Rebecca and seeing if they can help. I am telling them that I want this confidential so that it doesn't get back to Ann anyway.
Email - Terry to John Sutcliffe, 3/28/2000
Summary: Before Mark had read the email above, I ran into him and John and I asked if he had seen my email. He replied no and I told him that I had to talk to him. He asked what about and I told him I would tell him when I talked to him, so him and John got nervous that I was on the verge of quitting or something. So after sitting down and talking with Mark and Rebecca, Mark told me to send John this email because he was nervous.
Email - Terry to Mark/Rebecca Shavlik, 3/28/2000
Summary: I had the second plan in the works after Janet started to waver in the first plan, so this email is letting them know that all our discussions are a go and I take a few shots at ARG in the meantime.
Email - Terry to Ann, 3/29/2000
Summary: This is the email where I start to tell Ann that I have to go to Seattle. All my plans aren't in place yet, but I had to start this in motion or it might not have been believable.
Email - Ann to Terry, 3/29/2000
Summary: Ann waivers a little bit on going out to Seattle. I had to work a little bit to convince her to go, but once I did, little did I know that I was going to pay for it later on...
Conversation - Terry and Rebecca, 3/29/2000
Summary: Rebecca informed me that all the friends she had in mind to help out with our little scheme no longer were in the Seattle area. And all of our alternate solutions were sounding pretty lame. The problem was that I already started the ball in motion with Ann telling her that I was going to be in Seattle for training for her birthday and Shavlik was flying her out for the weekend because they felt bad. So now, not only did I not have a plan, but Ann thought everything was going to happen in Seattle. I had one last ditch effort that sound good at the time.
Email - Terry to Angus Reid, 3/29/2000
Summary: Since everything was falling through, I thought I would try sending one email blindly out to the CEO of Ann's company letting him know of my idea and how I would be so grateful if he somehow allowed it to go through by letting me sign some sort of waiver. Again, this sounded like a good idea at the time. I basically thought either I wouldn't have the right email address (since I was just blindly guessing based on Ann's email structure), or the CEO's assistant would weed out my email, or Angus would actually glance at it and delete it not know who I was, or Angus would spend 30 seconds reading it and 30 seconds replying letting me know one way or the other.
Email - Michael to Terry, 3/29/2000
Summary: Well the scenario where the assistant puts the kibosh on played out. See below. After reading it, I was depressed that the idea was dead, but it did not sound like my email was too offending or anything, so I start plan #3.

Idea #3 - Name in Lights

Summary: All right, now I am stretching it. I can't think of anything creative to do for the proposal. I remember that the 3M building on 494 always leaves office lights on during Christmas to form a Christmas tree. So I thought I would ask Mark Shavlik (since we do business with 3M) if he knows anyone I could coordinate this with. I would write a message like "I Love You" or "Marry Me" or something. Since I already started the Seattle plan, I couldn't back out of that. So know I had to ask for help from Ann's friends as well. But I figured that Ann would want to gossip about this anyway, and having her friends there would be a fun way for her to celebrate afterwards. We would all go out to dinner together or something.

Email - Rebecca to Terry, 3/29/2000
Summary: Letting me know that they do not know anyone who can help with this idea.
Conversation - Terry with Mike XXX, 3/30/2000
Summary: Mike is an employee of 3M so I took a stab at asking him if he knew anyone that could help. He didn't, so I was stuck again.
Email - Terry to Teri Woitysiak, 3/30/2000
Summary: Filling her in on the engagement and asking her for help. I wasn't completely out of ideas. In the mean time before telling her, I had talked to my sister Val about using her building and if it would work to light offices and spell out a message. She assured me that it would, so I *finalized* the plan and filled Teri in on the details. One week to go and I am still scrambling. I am about to go and stay with my sister for a few days to pretend like I am out of town (since at the time I was living on McKnight). Then after proposal, go out to eat and then stay at a hotel for the weekend. Then Saturday morning, I had arranged a Hot Air Balloon ride for Ann and I (and still to this date - 6/25/01 - we haven't taken the ride yet :))
Email - Teri to Terry, 3/30/2000
Summary: She is going to help! I think she got a little carried away buttering me up, but I'll take it.
Conversation - Terry and Ann, 3/30/2000
Summary: I ensure Ann that I will have time for her and that she should go. She OK's it with her boss (who all along know she isn't going out there) and is pumped to go to Seattle.
Email - Teri to Terry, 3/30/2000
Summary: Teri tells me that Ann took the bait hook, line, and sinker! The ball is definitely rolling know.
Email - Harriet Strobel to Ann, 3/30/2000
Summary: I told Harriet to send Ann a fake email saying that her plane eTicket was confirmed. Harriet and I love to screw around with Ann.
Email - Terry to Teri, 3/30/2000
Summary: Letting her know that Ann is jumping in with both feet. The only problem is Ann's excitement to go to Seattle is starting to grow! It only gets worse :(!
Email - Teri to Terry, 3/30/2000
Summary: Small talk, but Teri is wondering what the hotel arrangement is for the weekend because the girls want to hang out with Ann as well if possible. Too bad girls!
Email - Ann to Harriet, 3/30/2000
Summary: Just having a little fun with Ann, I give her a guilt trip for not thanking Harriet/Mark for the ticket. Of course in a matter of seconds, I was CC'ed on an email to Harriet. Ann is clueless still :)
Email - Terry to Ann, 3/31/2000
Summary: I was telling Ann that she didn't need to take me to the airport. Obviously I didn't want her to drop me off because I didn't really have a flight to pick up.
Email - Terry to Teri, 3/31/2000
Summary: 7 days away and being my anal self, I am putting together an *itinerary* for Teri. She took it all in stride though and did what ever she could to help. They would hang out with her until 9pm or so and then meet me at ITT Hartford. Never mind that I haven't yet went to ITT to try and see if our message with work on the building or not.
Email - Teri to Terry, 3/31/2000
Summary: Ann is throwing wrenches into my itinerary! She is screwing up the schedule. Teri is looking for suggestions and I do my best to give her some.
Email - Terry to Teri, 3/31/2000
Summary: Answering some of her questions and letting her know that she can maybe have some of Ann's time during the weekend, but I'll want most of it! :)
Email - Terry to Harriet, 3/31/2000
Summary: Ann is getting out of control. I am now at Val's pretending to be in Seattle and Ann is making plans and reservations from MPLS for all the things we are going to do on our four day weekend. She has made whale watching reservations, restaurant reservations, etc. I asked her where they were at so that I could put them all on my Visa to get points. Luckily she knew the names and told me. I immediately called them all and cancelled. I then told Ann to make sure to go through me when she wants to do something so I can put them on my credit card and what not.
Email - Harriet to Terry, 3/31/2000
Summary: Self explanatory
Email - Teri to Terry, 3/31/2000
Summary: Just confirming the plans and Teri is getting worried about driving and stresses out a little.
Email - Terry to Teri, 3/31/2000
Summary: Just trying to calm her a little bit about the directions.
Email - Teri to Terry, 3/31/2000
Summary: I'm supposed to be the one that is stressed, not Teri :)
Email - Val to Terry, 3/31/2000
Summary: I had asked Val for directions to ITT so that Ann wouldn't see the message going to the restaurant because I didn't want her to see it until I was ready. She is replying to that, and as you can see we still haven't even determined if the message will work.
Email - Terry to Teri, 3/31/2000
Summary: I forwarded Val's email to Terry saying that it sounding like a good idea to me.
Email - Teri to Terry, 3/31/2000
Summary: She is making me nervous :) Since I am planning this by the seat of my pants everything is going all over the place :(
Email - Terry to Teri, 3/31/2000
Summary: In Teri's frazzled state of mind, she forgot previously set details.
Email - Teri to Terry, 3/31/2000
Summary: Teri gives me her "blessing" so it should be a go :) Still brainstorming ideas and know the way I will show up to meet Ann is in a limo (for the time being!)
Email - Terry to Teri, 3/31/2000
Summary: Just responding to previous email and still planning.
Email - Teri to Terry, 3/31/2000
Summary: Letting me know that everything is working out with the girls. She even notes on Ann's ability to "misplace" items from time to time :) (to give Ann credit, I don't think she'll ever lose that ring!)
Failure - Building Doesn't Work, 4/2/2000
Summary: After an hour of drafting out the lighting scheme at home with Val, Tim Lorsung, and Victoria we trek over to ITT and after another couple hours of lighting offices and pulling shades according to our diagrams we rush outside to see our wonderful creation. We couldn't wait to stand out by the pond and see the message "I LUV U ANN" (we had to cut down on the message because the building wasn't big enough :(). So we walk out to the pond and to be generous, we could see the "I" in the message but the rest of the message looked like a checker board. Screwed again.
Email - Brian XXX (Psycho!) to Terry, 4/3/2000
Summary: At first, with the building lights failing, I was looking forward to possible having the whole Mall study idea brought back to life somehow, but then I opened the email. The bomb! :( Brian got wind of the email I sent a couple days ago and let me have it. I think he got pissed because I was going over his head. I don't think my email warranted this type of response but it is all in the eye of the beholder I guess. (Notice it is just 'Regards' at the end and not 'Best Regards' :)). Talk about a buzz kill and only 4 days until proposal!
Email - Terry to Brian, 4/3/2000
Summary: Still in shock over the email and shitting my pants that I am going to get Ann fired or something I quickly draft an apology and fire it off. And I will not put "Best Regards" either. :)

Idea #4 - Mall of America (that's all I know)

Summary: Not quite sure what I am going to do yet, but something is going to happen at the Mall of America.

Email - Terry to Teri, 4/3/2000
Summary: The email below lets Teri know that everything is falling apart. I am brainstorming for ideas for Mall of America and seeing if Teri thinks it sounds cool or what.
Email - Teri to Terry, 4/3/2000
Summary: Responding to Mall of America idea and lets just say that she didn't flat out say it was stupid but she didn't see as excited as before :)
Email - Teri to Terry, 4/3/2000
Summary: I forwarded her Brian's email to me and she probably thought I was bad mouthing the CEO's mom from the email :)
Email - Terry to Teri, 4/3/2000
Summary: I forwarded the email I wrote to Angus along with note below explaining my case and hoping she agreed with me that Brian was a little harsh.
Email - Teri to Terry, 4/3/2000
Summary: Luckily Teri agreed with me and backed me up a little bit. She also tried to stroke my ego about the Camp Snoopy idea. :)
Email - Teri to Terry, 4/3/2000
Summary: Teri isn't stroking my ego so much anymore :)
Email - Val to Terry, 4/3/2000
Summary: This is a series of 3 emails. I had forwarded Brian's email to Val to see what she thought of it. She backed me up as well.
Failure - No games for Ann, 4/3/2000
Summary: Victoria and I walked around Camp Snoopy and couldn't find one good game that could be rigged. Everything required luck/skill and I wasn't the most confident with Ann's athletic prowess.
Email - Terry to Teri, 4/5/2000
Summary: 2 days to go and things are still falling apart! I changed my idea from athletics to art. Basically, I would go get a Caricature done of me down on one knee like I was proposing to someone. He would leave the other part blank, then when Ann and her friends came down, they would pretend to get a drawing done of them and although they were all sitting there getting drawn, all the artist was really doing is drawing Ann in on the partially drawn caricature of me already. Then we he turned it around, I would magically appear.
Email - Teri to Terry, 4/5/2000
Summary: Well, definitely looks like Teri lightened up to the idea of the caraciture better than the sporting Olympics. Also looking out for me making sure I didn't plan something that failed again..."Did you see if they had people that did that there?" :)
Email - Terry to Teri, 4/5/2000
Summary: Just reassuring Teri that everything this time WILL work!
Email - Teri to Terry, 4/5/2000
Summary: She is just confirming everything, but does slip something out that I didn't want to hear. She knew that Ann and I went ring shopping together. Originally, I thought I would always pick the ring out myself when shopping for the ring, but in retrospect, I am glad I didn't because I would have never picked the ring we have and Ann is in love with it!
Email - Terry to Teri, 4/5/2000
Summary: Let her know about the ring and all the other little details about the night.
Email - Teri to Terry, 4/5/2000
Summary: Just responding...

Idea #5 - Bucas (ego problem)

Summary: I am not completely sold on this caricature idea and think it is kind of lame. So I come up with a different one, albeit one day away. It is explained in the email below.

Email - Terry to Teri, 4/6/2000
Summary: Explaining my "New" idea because I am a little embarrassed of the caricature one. Kind of copies Tom A's proposal, but I was desperate at this point.
Email - Teri to Terry, 4/6/2000
Summary: Responding...sounding like this plan might backfire in my face :(
Email - Victoria to Terry, 4/6/2000
Summary: I asked her what she thought of my idea for the new proposal.
Email - Terry to Victoria, 4/6/2000
Summary: Response to her comments.
Email - Terry to Teri, 4/6/2000
Summary: Looking for self confidence...
Email - Teri to Terry, 4/6/2000
Summary: Finding self confidence...
Email - Terry to Teri, 4/7/2000
Summary: The day of and I final came up with a plan...back to caricature plan!
Email - Terry to Ann, 4/7/2000
Summary: Pretending to be in Seattle and taking "reservation orders" from Ann. Starting to worry about a let down. :(
Email - Terry to Teri, 4/7/2000
Summary: Forwarded the email above about how Ann is all pumped to go to Seattle and I am worrying about a let down.
Email - Ann to Terry, 4/7/2000
Summary: She is still making reservations...oh my is she going to hate me...I hope that diamond is big enough :)
Email - Teri to Terry, 4/7/2000
Summary: The final plans...

The Proposal

Well, now that all the plans are in place, all I had to do is come up with the proposal and actual perform the act. Talk about stressful. I went to work for half a day and then headed down for Mall of America around 2:30 or so to get my half of the caricature done. I was definitely starting to get nervous because I wanted to surprise Ann and make sure she thought the proposal was fun. Having her friends there to witness it was a little nerve racking but I definitely knew that Ann would enjoy talking with her friends during dinner about it and showing them the ring and all that 'girl stuff' and I could just sit back and recover. I made reservations at The Sofitel hotel for Friday and Saturday night (a small consumer loan was needed to do this :)).

Sitting at the caricature place was pretty funny. As I sat there getting my picture drawn, people would stop and look to see that I was being drawn in a weird fashion - down on one knee holding a ring. All the women got it, but kids and men looked pretty clueless and would point and ask questions. This is when it dawned on me that there might be a problem when Ann was getting drawn. Some redneck or somebody would say something while Ann was being filled in on the drawing to ruin the surprise. As soon as I was done with the drawing, I would need to call Teri and warn her that people may screw it up and she would have to keep a watch out. As the guy was drawing, I would see him smirk every once and a while and I made sure to tell him that this thing was probably going to get framed or something so he shouldn't draw it too obnoxious or make fun of us too much. "Make it look semi decent" I told him knowing that he had a lot of work in front of him to make me look semi decent.

After the drawing was done, I was pleased with the result and now I just had to hide and wait. It was about 5:30pm and Ann and the gang was showing up in about an hour or so. Waiting for time to pass took forever! I really started to get nervous as I tried to memorize the fairly simple phrase I would try to utter to Ann as I asked for her hand for eternity. After what seemed days of worrying that with my luck Ann and her friends would walk right past me before anything happened and ruin all the work I did, I finally saw Teri and Jess at the caricature stand watching Ann and Jenn getting drawn. The situation was such that Ann thought they were going to draw all four people but could only fit two at a time on the bench so Jenn and Ann started. I could see from the distance that Teri and Jess had their hands full bouncing children around when they would start to point and ask who the 'man' was and what not. Nerve racking, but entertaining nonetheless. As I got a signal from Teri that he was wrapping it up on Ann, I snuck in from the side where Ann couldn't see me.

To set up the scene a little more, remember a few things. Ann thought I was in Seattle and had no idea of inclination of what was going on. She assumed that the artist was drawing two blondes on the paper and to start with Ann wasn't thrilled with getting a caricature in the first place. So now the big moment is about to happen and a crowd had been building realizing what was going on. As the artist asked Jenn and Ann if they wanted to see what it looked like so far, they obviously answered 'yes' and I creped in so close to Ann that I could practically grab her before she saw it. He spun it around showing a huge brown haired man on his knee and a small blonde woman off to the side. Ann's first reaction was complete and utter disgust - remember she was expecting to see a partial drawing of two blondes, not a complete drawing of a man and woman. The face she gave the artist was priceless; unfortunately, no one had a camera on cue afraid to spoil the surprise. At this time, I tapped Ann on her shoulder and she looked at me and gave me a look like she had no clue who I was - she was expecting me to be in Seattle. After merely glancing at me she looked back at the artist and was trying to figure out what was going on. Then she realized it was I and finally showed some recognition that she remembered who I was. I grabbed her hand...led her away from the booth a little bit...got down on one knee and said..."Ann you are the most beautiful woman in the world, and I love you with all my heart. Would you do me the great honor of being my wife?" Pretty lame I know, but by this time I was all 'idea'ed' out and I have never been one to come up with great words. Well the rest is history. Ann, lucky for my sake, answered yes. We had dinner and she chatted with her friends and every other woman in the restaurant and everything will be smooth sailing from here (until the wedding planning :))

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